Stop Doing Life Alone: How To Build A Circle of Faith

Morgan Tracy J
Jun 16
2 min read

“How do I make Christian friends”? I’ve gotten this question a lot over the past eight years of ministry. Honestly, being a Christian has its challenges, especially for a new believer. It can become isolating and make you feel odd, weird, or even different because you don’t do what everyone else does.

I experienced this in my first two years of being saved. College parties, kickbacks, and certain events no longer appealed to me, so I found myself alone a lot. In my thoughts and head. Then I discovered five things that helped me build a circle of friends in the faith.

#1: Be willing to start first!

This means starting a conversation first, complimenting them first, saying hi first, or something as small as smiling first. A great friendship in college came from my being willing to chat first. A girl sat next to me in a meeting for study abroad. I spoke up and she was very nice and warm. Months later that same girl became my roommate in Barbados for study abroad. Later, that same girl sat on the phone with me late at night when crying over an ex. And for that girl, I have gotten the privilege to be there for her. So, be willing to start first.

#2: Bring your need to God!

This is pivotal! Talk to God about your need for friendships and community. God cares about what you need, so don’t shy away from mentioning it to Him. I prayed this very prayer years ago, and today I am surrounded by family and friends. I have a strong community.

#3: Be willing to collaborate with others!

Some of my most meaningful connections have come from collaboration. Allowing another woman to write on my blog turned into a great connection and friendship. Even just chatting with like-minded people online has allowed me to form some great connections and bonds.

#4: Local connections!

In the day and age of social media, it’s easy to look online for connections, but local connections matter so much. When you have a flat tire, need coffee and a chat, or even when you just need to get out of the house and see someone, local connections are necessary for the betterment of your life and health. The right local connections can add so much value to your life.

#5: Be intentional about the rooms you are in!

This is pivotal! Put yourself in the rooms with people who have the same interests or standards of life. The more intentional you are about the rooms you are in, the more opportunities for quality connections. For example, a women's Bible study, workout class, or even the library. All the things you enjoy begin to show up in those rooms to find your circle.

It’s officially time to stop doing life alone and build a circle of faith around you to bring more harmony, connections, and love into your life.

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